Trying To Not Lose Your Identity When You Become A Father

Becoming a father, They say having a family can age you as a person. while some elements of that can be true it is also important to remember that you still are you and you don’t need to lose your identity. You change your priorities the moment you become a father, there is no denying that. You no longer matter and all that does is your little ones and your family. 


This is when parents, especially fathers, can feel like they lose their identity as a person because their lives revolve around their families. While there is nothing wrong with this, it is important that we do what we can to ensure that we feel our best and still have the enjoyment that comes with life. We do that by taking care of ourselves.

There are a few things you can do in your daily life that can help you look and feel more youthful and also help you to get back a little bit of who you were before your kids. Making some lifestyle choices and changing a few habits it can be all it takes to appear younger and to feel your best. With that in mind, here are some of the ways you can do it. 

Take care of what you eat and drink 

It probably sounds like a broken record and something you have heard before. But what you eat and drink can have a huge effect on how you look and feel yourself. Eating too much junk food and chocolate can make your skin appear dry and aged. The same can be said for drinking too much beer or coffee. Of course, we all deserve a treat. Especially if you have worked all day, or been with the kids.

Those things in moderation will only keep you on the right track. Increasing your water intake will have an effect on how you look and feel. It might be time to give your health and wellbeing an overhaul. Look at a balanced approach to the food that you eat and also look at how much water you drink. Drinking more water especially can have positive effects on your health and wellbeing.

Take care of your appearance

Taking a bit of pride in your appearance doesn’t have to be time-consuming. It’s as simple as getting into a habit of doing things a little differently. Or even making a few lifestyle choices. Thinking about your smile and your hair is a good place to start. The small changes that you can make can have a big impact. Another thing to consider would be the clothes that you wear.

If you have to head to work, make sure you dress for the occasion. If you work from home try to avoid loungewear and dress for the job so that you can feel happier in yourself. Doing these things can help you to feel better about things moving forward. 

Looking youthful isn’t all about looks

It’s having confidence in your skin and identity. You are a dad now, but that doesn’t mean that you have just to grow old gracefully. Embrace your inner child. Have fun with your kids. Get out and play soccer with your kids. Teach them new and exciting sports. The moment you start acting your age or younger for that matter, the more youthful you will appear.

It is all about a state of mind when it comes to looking and feeling youthful, and this can be a great way to help you feel happier in other aspects of your life. It is all about making sure you live your life as well as having to embrace the normal aspects of having a family and the responsibilities that you now face. You can strike a balance to make these things work in sync rather than feeling like one outweighs the other. 

Make time for you

Every parent will agree that time to do the things that you love can often be a decision between doing that or doing something for the family. But self-care and doing things that you enjoy help you to be a better parent overall. This might be enjoying sporting events and looking at embracing those in different ways.

This might be when websites online can shed some light on the things that you can do. You could also look at having a hobby that is just for you, exercising more frequently, and even things like meditation or enjoying some time alone can make you a better parent overall and a chance to find your identity once more. 

Make a bit of time for some male grooming

Being a parent means we are often time-poor. But if you can set yourself a bit of time in the morning or at some point in the week to take some time for yourself it could make a huge difference. Doing things like shaving, taking care of your hair and the clothes you wear can all make a huge difference to the way you look and feel. Male grooming can also help you to feel more confident in your ability to do things such as working and the things that you have coming up.  

Get moving more often

Finally, the last thing you can do to help you look and feel more youthful and to find your identity once again is by taking more exercise. Taking exercise can help with your appearance, It can aid weight loss, help you tone and build muscle and provide you with more energy. You don’t need to be heading to the gym all of the time, there are things that you can do at home.

You can work out through videos on YouTube, you can go for a run or a walk, and you can even get the family involved by choosing to be more active with them. The more that you do, the more you will feel better and this can help you again to feel happier in other aspects of your life. Exercise can be something just for you and your chance to de-stress from the day and have some time for yourself. 

When your become a father

Let’s hope these tips help you feel to find your identity again after becoming a father.


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